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Reflections for a better life

Imagine you are in a crowded movie theater. Suddenly, smoke starts to appear and spread throughout the theater. There are screams, and people jumping up and piling into a crowd heading to the back of the theater...

What is an “enemy image”? How do you know when you have one?An enemy image exists whenever we think that our child, spouse, co-worker, or political figure is bad, crazy, or other similar judgments and condemnations.

We have probably all heard the following on various occasions: “We can’t control anyone. They (he/she) made their own choices.” That could be referring to family or friends making "bad" choices. But there is a mindset that keeps us connected in a more positive way!

Nonviolent communication is communication that originates from a place of kindness and connection with self and with other. It expresses what is really important to us, and is likely to help us and others get what we really need.

A lot has been written about apologies. How they are important, and how they should be worded. But I think there is important room for improvement, if the goal is to create a stronger relationship. Just this morning, ...

Be free of pre-set notions of good and bad, right and wrong, but allow your innate kindness flow to self and other. Then life becomes much less of an effort, and you can take action with a clear mind.

Good verbal communication should choose words that express the needs, feelings, and requests of the speaker, while also welcoming the other person to join into a dialogue without shaming or blaming them.

The opening up of rawness, whether it is loving feelings, hurt or anger, generosity, or loneliness, is an opportunity for growth. Rawness has its own trajectory, and can lead to new and unexpected growth and fulfillment.

If plants and insects and other small animals have strategies to survive, then even moreso we humans do.That is why psychological labels need to be used in a very limited way. Why? Because everything we do...

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