Presence, Beyond the Clichés and on to Connection

Better Life, Empathy / Compassion, Inspiration, Zen and Buddhism

What if we understand that a mind cleared of internal conflict is automatically present, and that presence is our natural state (but not so easy to attain)?

Our brain’s language is frictionless and spacious energy, experienced as connection with others and with ourselves.

Empathy, Detachment, and Changing the World

Empathy / Compassion, Zen and Buddhism

Imagine you are in a crowded movie theater. Suddenly, smoke starts to appear and spread throughout the theater. There are screams, and people jumping up and piling into a crowd…

What causes some people to be helpers and leaders in such a situation, instead of panicking? How do we develop a mind that supports helpful detachment?

No Enemy Images in Relationships–and Everywhere Else

Communication, Psychology

What is an “enemy image”? How do you know when you have one? An enemy image exists whenever we think that our child, spouse, co-worker, or political figure is bad, crazy, or other similar judgments and condemnations.

Yes, You Have Influence With (But Not Control Over) Others!

Change, Psychology

We have probably all heard the following on various occasions: “We can’t control anyone. They (he/she) make their own choices.” That could be referring to family or friends making “bad” choices. But there is a mindset that can keep us connected in a more effective way!

What is “Nonviolent Communication” and Why Does It Matter?

Better Life, Communication

Nonviolent communication is communication that originates from a place of kindness and connection with self and with other. It expresses what is really important to us, and is likely to help us and others get what we really need.

Love Means Never Having to Say (With a Sense of Guilt) You’re Sorry

Better Life, Psychology

A lot has been written about apologies. How they are important, and how they should be worded. But I think there is important room for improvement, if the goal is to create a stronger relationship. Just this morning, …

The Mind, Moving with No Hindrance, for a Peaceful and Joyful Life

Better Life, Inspiration

Be free of pre-set notions of good and bad, right and wrong, but allow your innate kindness flow to self and other. Then life becomes much less of an effort, and you can take action with a clear mind.

Three (or Four) Little Words… to Be Careful Using!

Better Life, Psychology

Good verbal communication should choose words that express the needs, feelings, and requests of the speaker, while also welcoming the other person to join into a dialogue without shaming or blaming them.

Explaining the Unexplained: Sunshine Penetration and Our Growth

Change, Inspiration

The opening up of rawness, whether it is loving feelings, hurt or anger, generosity, or loneliness, is an opportunity for growth. Rawness has its own trajectory, and can lead to new and unexpected growth and fulfillment.

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