Be free of pre-set notions of good and bad, right and wrong, but allow your innate kindness flow to self and other. Then life becomes much less of an effort, and you can take action with a clear mind.
Good verbal communication should choose words that express the needs, feelings, and requests of the speaker, while also welcoming the other person to join into a dialogue without shaming or blaming them.
As a therapist, I frequently hear about how a couple are stressed about interactions with members of their own families of origin (generally, parents and siblings), or with family members of their partner.
The opening up of rawness, whether it is loving feelings, hurt or anger, generosity, or loneliness, is an opportunity for growth. Rawness has its own trajectory, and can lead to new and unexpected growth and fulfillment.
If plants and insects and other small animals have strategies to survive, then even moreso we humans do.
That is why psychological labels need to be used in a very limited way. Why? Because everything we do…
We can lose track of the primary information that we need to keep us and the people around us healthy. The part often missed is overall health, and health of the immune system.
Societal systems need to change, to provide a more unifying and kinder environment which will support mental, physical, and financial health for all people in the United States. It can happen, but a lot of work and effort is needed. I hope each of us can be part of that.
